Why People Self-Harm & How To Help

It’s always concerning to hear that self-harm is on the up. With the amount of stress young people are under, it’s no surprise some are struggling. In this post, I will share the reasons why people self harm; an understanding formed through years of working with young people. My experience includes working with those who’ve cut different parts

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Insecure Attachment: Anxious-Avoidant

This is my third post on attachment styles. The Secure and Insecure-Ambivalent Attachment style posts can be found HERE but if you are wanting to know more about the Insecure Anxious-Avoidant Attachment style, then this is the post for you. Before we start, what’s important to remember about all attachment styles is they are strategies learnt

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What is an Insecure Ambivalent Attachment?

In this second post on Insecure Attachment, I will focus on Ambivalent Attachment. I have already written about the similarities between these behaviours and ADHD. This post will look at how it develops and what a child needs to help them form a more secure style of relating.   What is an Insecure-Ambivalent attachment? As the

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Psychological Process: When a System Splits

As a clinical psychologist, I’m interested in how groups of people (referred to here as the system) work with and around a client, and what this tells us about the service user’s personal experience and relationships. As clinicians, or allied professionals, we can get pulled into different dynamics. One of these dynamics, or processes, is

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Does Your Child Have ADHD Or An Insecure Attachment?

In My Psychological Shoes It’s fair to say I’m an ADHD sceptic. I particularly grapple with the diagnosis and have never been part of an “ADHD clinic.” I feel uncomfortable being part of a process that diagnoses children from a young age. In my view, there are many different developmental pathways children can travel down

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What Is Childhood Anxiety Really About?

My Anxiety Thankfully anxiety doesn’t control or shape my life. Even so, there was one period where I was so chronically anxious (I’m talking months), I was functioning on autopilot. My thinking shut down, and existing and surviving took over. I was unable to see beyond a day at a time, sometimes the next few

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